RANDOM MUSINGS: AMERICAN EXCEPTIONALISM

RANDOM MUSINGS: AMERICAN EXCEPTIONALISM

Sep. 1, 2020 by

American Exceptionalism — What Does It Really Mean to Believe America Is the Best? A while back I came across a post on Twitter I can’t quit thinking about… It stated that the very concept of American exceptionalism is a

RANDOM MUSINGS: SEX, DATING, AND CORONAVIRUS

RANDOM MUSINGS: SEX, DATING, AND CORONAVIRUS

Mar. 16, 2020 by

Finding Love, Having Sex, and Dating During the Coronavirus Pandemic? So, normally my post this month would be something like a book review or my latest writerly news. I’ve also been meaning to discuss that new reality dating show Love

RANDOM MUSINGS: IMPLICIT BIAS AND WRITING ROMANCE

RANDOM MUSINGS: IMPLICIT BIAS AND WRITING ROMANCE

Jan. 21, 2020 by

What it Means to Have Implicit Bias, and How It Impacts Romance Authors (Including Me) Implicit bias…We all suffer from it. Though those on the receiving end of our resulting words and actions suffer from it the most. What is

Random Musings: Defining  Strong Women

Random Musings: Defining Strong Women

Sep. 17, 2019 by

Too Many (Usually Male) Authors Ask: What Is A Strong Women? Here’s My Answer… For years, in books, movies, and on TV, the main definition of a strong woman was one who survived rape, violence, widowhood, and/or poverty and went

Random Musings: Consent in Romance and Real Life

Random Musings: Consent in Romance and Real Life

Aug. 30, 2019 by

Consent in Romance Novels – Sexy or Not Sexy? In the #MeToo era I’m always shocked to hear someone say they don’t think consent belongs in romance novels because it kills the mood. Sure, early romance novels featured plenty of

Random Musings: The Five Biggest Relationship Lies

Random Musings: The Five Biggest Relationship Lies

Jul. 12, 2019 by

The Five Relationship Lies We’ve Been Fed for Years Hurt Everyone In my teens and twenties I was your typical relationship pessimist. My parent’s marriage seemed a thing of evil, and I couldn’t understand why anyone would get married voluntarily. 

Random Musings: Romance Novels & the Hot Guy/Hot Sex Fantasy

Random Musings: Romance Novels & the Hot Guy/Hot Sex Fantasy

Jun. 13, 2019 by

Are Romance Novels Selling Women an Unrealistic Fantasy of Fidelity, Respect, Hotties, and Orgasms? Just the other day, a man on Twitter (who claimed to be a lover of the romance genre) asked why all the men in romance novels

Random Musings: Diversity, Politics, Love, and Romance Novels

Random Musings: Diversity, Politics, Love, and Romance Novels

May. 2, 2019 by

Washington DC Sits at the Intersection of Diversity, Politics, Love, and Everything Great About Romance Novels A couple weeks ago, I took a trip to Washington DC with my best girlfriend. Neither of us had been there since we were

Random Musings: Women’s Fiction and Men’s Fiction

Random Musings: Women’s Fiction and Men’s Fiction

Mar. 18, 2019 by

Why Do We Need a Separate Category for Women’s Fiction, but Not Men’s Fiction? I’m always fascinated by the responses of my male friends when they read my books. Yes, I write romance, which is typically considered a sub-genre of

Random Musings: On Men and Women and Orgasms

Random Musings: On Men and Women and Orgasms

Dec. 11, 2018 by

Why Do We Treat Men’s and Women’s Orgasms so Differently? And What Does that Say About Us? Something has been haunting me lately about men and women and orgasms. It’s been sticking in my head, popping up during conversations and