Random Musings: Defining  Strong Women

Random Musings: Defining Strong Women

Sep. 17, 2019 by

Too Many (Usually Male) Authors Ask: What Is A Strong Women? Here’s My Answer… For years, in books, movies, and on TV, the main definition of a strong woman was one who survived rape, violence, widowhood, and/or poverty and went

Random Musings: Consent in Romance and Real Life

Random Musings: Consent in Romance and Real Life

Aug. 30, 2019 by

Consent in Romance Novels – Sexy or Not Sexy? In the #MeToo era I’m always shocked to hear someone say they don’t think consent belongs in romance novels because it kills the mood. Sure, early romance novels featured plenty of

Random Musings: The Five Biggest Relationship Lies

Random Musings: The Five Biggest Relationship Lies

Jul. 12, 2019 by

The Five Relationship Lies We’ve Been Fed for Years Hurt Everyone In my teens and twenties I was your typical relationship pessimist. My parent’s marriage seemed a thing of evil, and I couldn’t understand why anyone would get married voluntarily. 

Random Musings: Romance Novels & the Hot Guy/Hot Sex Fantasy

Random Musings: Romance Novels & the Hot Guy/Hot Sex Fantasy

Jun. 13, 2019 by

Are Romance Novels Selling Women an Unrealistic Fantasy of Fidelity, Respect, Hotties, and Orgasms? Just the other day, a man on Twitter (who claimed to be a lover of the romance genre) asked why all the men in romance novels

Random Musings: Diversity, Politics, Love, and Romance Novels

Random Musings: Diversity, Politics, Love, and Romance Novels

May. 2, 2019 by

Washington DC Sits at the Intersection of Diversity, Politics, Love, and Everything Great About Romance Novels A couple weeks ago, I took a trip to Washington DC with my best girlfriend. Neither of us had been there since we were

Random Musings: Women’s Fiction and Men’s Fiction

Random Musings: Women’s Fiction and Men’s Fiction

Mar. 18, 2019 by

Why Do We Need a Separate Category for Women’s Fiction, but Not Men’s Fiction? I’m always fascinated by the responses of my male friends when they read my books. Yes, I write romance, which is typically considered a sub-genre of

Random Musings: On Men and Women and Orgasms

Random Musings: On Men and Women and Orgasms

Dec. 11, 2018 by

Why Do We Treat Men’s and Women’s Orgasms so Differently? And What Does that Say About Us? Something has been haunting me lately about men and women and orgasms. It’s been sticking in my head, popping up during conversations and

Random Musings: Am I Too Old to Wear This?

Random Musings: Am I Too Old to Wear This?

Apr. 5, 2018 by

How Old Is Too Old for Certain Fashion Choices? Kelly Ripa recently got ripped a new one (Sorry. Not sorry.) by the Twitterati for having a banging body and showing it off in a bikini on the beach at the

Random Musings: Society’s Subtle Subjugation of Women

Random Musings: Society’s Subtle Subjugation of Women

Feb. 8, 2018 by

On Purses and Makeup and Shoes and the Subjugation of Women and Their Dreams “Abandon the cultural myth that all female friendships must be bitchy, toxic, or competitive. This myth is like heels and purses — pretty but designed to

Random Musings: Alpha Males, Romance Novels & #MeToo

Random Musings: Alpha Males, Romance Novels & #MeToo

Nov. 28, 2017 by

Writing Steamy Romance Novels in the Age of #MeToo Recently, I read a fascinating article: “3 Cult-Classic Films That Reveal the Depth of Sexual Assault Culture in America”. One of the movies mentioned was Saturday Night Fever. I remember watching it